What men dont talk about

[royblackburn1@btinternet.]

Hi all, sorry this is not BSA related but I don't know of anyone to ask. I have been told I need surgery on a enlarged prostate and given the options I can choose, if any of you out there have had the same done any advice would be grateful if you have had it done you probably know the options. What side effects to expect etc I know people are different to oneanother just like our bkes, thanks Roy

[KernowPete]

Hi Roy,
No experience myself (as of yet). Hopefully someone will be able to advise. All the best with it.
Pete

[chaz]

good luck Roy

no experience other than they can work miracles nowadays. I did hear there is a non invasive process which is better for recovery.

there has been a lot of TV and radio air time on getting a prostate check. I finally plucked up the courage to see my (female) doctor for a finger test....
the surgery said they dont have any measures in place to call up men over 55 for a PT. I said "its been all over the media today" , they said, as I was taking in a blood test, they would add the request to it..   no finger!!! dont know if Im happy or sad, that said, Ive not heard anything in the last 6 months to say clear or not... I suppose if there was a problem, they would have contacted me.

[Mike Farmer]

 

Hi. Yes Ive been down that route, in fact we discussed it here a few moons ago.

Firstly I think age will have a bearing on decision. I am 82 and mine was done 9 years ago. I was given the relevant choices and initially opted for Radium(I think) but in less than an hour I changed my mind and went for operation. I could not live with the thought of living cancer cells in my body. So surgery it was.

I never asked about life expectancy at the time, but in discussion with surgeon a few months later I was told that prior to op I was about 18 months from incurable.

The one thing I would suggest is that anyone going down this road discuss with partner every step of the way because it affects them as well. My wife came to every hospital appointment so she was in the picture from square one. She did not 'interfere' in my decisiom but agreed with my stance.

I am told the various options affect ongoing sex life in approx the same way. The pundits will tell you that it should not go completely etc. For me it did so none zilch covers it. In my case a high percentage of the "urge" went with, I cant speak for enyone else.

One serious side affect is urination. For the first few months I could piss for England and I wasnt finally dry for about two years. In truth I still leak and need to use a pad whenever I'm out of bed. Fortunately I'm dry at night.

As you will understand this is personal and you may get a radically different story elsewhere. To me the loss of my sexual ability was a fairly major blow? the alternative was possibly death. So you have to decide your price. I would certainly make the same decision again.

Ultimately dead men can't F--k anyway. To me?? the op was a winner.

I hope this helps. Laugh--the gods have conspired. fingers up to the world.

I was in hospital about 30 hours. I came out with a cathetter fitted and a pee bag but only for about two weeks

Mike

[Mike Farmer]

 

Just my luck to have an extemely comely nurse remove the cathetter.

We laughed about it together.

Mike

[royblackburn1@btinternet.]

Thankyou for your replies I know its a personal issue for some to open up about, but made my mind up and made an appointment. Thanks Roy

[Mike Farmer]

 

For your info. At Southampton Hospital the prostate cancer staff used to hold a "forum" about every three months where like me who had it done could meet with those who were just going down the route.

I think its worth while checking if your area is doing anything similar because it was well worth while.

Take care

Mike

[BILL NELSON]

Hi all, sorry this is not BSA related but I don't know of anyone to ask. I have been told I need surgery on a enlarged prostate and given the options I can choose, if any of you out there have had the same done any advice would be grateful if you have had it done you probably know the options. What side effects to expect etc I know people are different to oneanother just like our bkes, thanks Roy

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